I hear that all the toddlers go through biting stage...I guess mine is no different then. But we have a long and weird history of biting.
Let me just start by saying that Nessie bit Matt and me for months before she ever bit anybody at school. Around 11 months or so she started biting Matt and me. She would pretend to give us kisses and then all of a sudden bite. She never did it out of anger or frustration at that point. Then 3 months later we got a first report from school that she bit somebody. What is interesting is that her biting habit at school had a pattern. Every day in the second part of the day Nessie loved playing with the toy kitchen at school, but she wanted to be by herself when she was playing there. Whenever somebody would come to join her in playing, she would first push them, and if they came back she would bite them. I remember that one day I came to pick her up and the kitchen was in the hallway, they have had such a hard time with getting Nessie to share that they grounded the kitchen :)
That behavior lasted for a couple of months...Then she stopped biting on a regular basis.
What is interesting is that we still get reports that she bit somebody from time to time, except now she bites only when people are doing something mean to hear. The last time she bit somebody was when a boy was spitting at her and she didn't like that, so she bit him on the back. The time before, she bit somebody because she was sitting down before going outside and another boy was pushing her on the floor so he could sit in her spot and she didn't appreciate that very much, so she bit him. Now, I know that biting is bad, but I have absolutely no problem with my child biting somebody because they are being mean to her. Yes, ideally I would like her to just get up and walk away, but some part of me says 'Good for you Ness, don't let them bully you, you are a strong little girl who can't be pushed around' So, while I am not too thrilled that my child bites, she did stop biting us, and the only reports we get from school is when she retaliates so I guess it's ok...
Let me just start by saying that Nessie bit Matt and me for months before she ever bit anybody at school. Around 11 months or so she started biting Matt and me. She would pretend to give us kisses and then all of a sudden bite. She never did it out of anger or frustration at that point. Then 3 months later we got a first report from school that she bit somebody. What is interesting is that her biting habit at school had a pattern. Every day in the second part of the day Nessie loved playing with the toy kitchen at school, but she wanted to be by herself when she was playing there. Whenever somebody would come to join her in playing, she would first push them, and if they came back she would bite them. I remember that one day I came to pick her up and the kitchen was in the hallway, they have had such a hard time with getting Nessie to share that they grounded the kitchen :)
That behavior lasted for a couple of months...Then she stopped biting on a regular basis.
What is interesting is that we still get reports that she bit somebody from time to time, except now she bites only when people are doing something mean to hear. The last time she bit somebody was when a boy was spitting at her and she didn't like that, so she bit him on the back. The time before, she bit somebody because she was sitting down before going outside and another boy was pushing her on the floor so he could sit in her spot and she didn't appreciate that very much, so she bit him. Now, I know that biting is bad, but I have absolutely no problem with my child biting somebody because they are being mean to her. Yes, ideally I would like her to just get up and walk away, but some part of me says 'Good for you Ness, don't let them bully you, you are a strong little girl who can't be pushed around' So, while I am not too thrilled that my child bites, she did stop biting us, and the only reports we get from school is when she retaliates so I guess it's ok...
No comments:
Post a Comment